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Day 339

1/15/2015

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Good morning!  My name is Lauren and I'm a grateful, recovering alcoholic/addict.  At work yesterday, I was listening to a book on tape called, "Crucial conversations."  WOW!  What a wake up call.  I heard things I never thought of or if I did, knew that was how I was supposed to talk to people, but it never came out like that.  In my head, I am always right.  In reality, I'm not and it's hard to for me to accept that.  My defense mechanism is sarcasm.  I think things in my head, and think he is supposed to know exactly how I feel, when he might be totally clueless.  The way I look at things may be totally opposite from the way he thinks, but I think he should feel the same way I do.  We grew up in two totally different home lifestyles.  But we need to respect the way each other feels and compromise and least listen.  A lot of the time, what I say may not be what I mean. What I hear myself say what I think I said, it comes out wrong.  I don't mean to sound mean, but it may come out that way.  I need to work on patience and listening not just hearing, and valuing his opinion, and respect how he feels.  I need to be aware of his feelings, and genuinely care. And when I'm wrong, suck it up, and apologize.  Not just say I'm sorry, but apologize with a sincere change of heart. That's all I have for now.  Have a great day!  
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Jeri DuBois
1/15/2015 02:17:02 am

that my friend makes a successful marriage. I might add that never try to change who he is and vice versa. Dwell on his successes and hurt with him when he hurts. Be open in all ways and be honest with him even if it means an argument may persue. He will have more trust and respect you even more.

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